Fake it till you make it like the zesty Tarek! #stoppretending – Episode 1
Posted on 7 Jul 2019
Ever met someone who is all about that Instagram life? You know, the one who’s always snapping photos, scrolling past a multitude of timelines and overuses the motto ‘do it for the gram’. Often, they are also different from their online persona, a classic case of expectations vs. reality.
To get a gist of what we mean, take a look at Tarek.
His height is probably the source of his over-confidence… but let’s keep this topic for another article!
Back to our story, Tarek has definitely a severe case of FOMO (fear of missing out) just like a lot of other people who share the same obsession with virtual life – particularly one that paints life as a never-ending holiday.
In the video, Tarek looks to be living the dream on a beach somewhere, until it cuts to his reality of a work site and an angry boss named Vijay. Almost all of us have a Vijay in our lives too, the realistic friend who is always questioning your big dreams and goals only because he cares about you.
While Vijay is the dream killer in this scenario, we also can finally see the bigger picture and understand that Tarek is slightly delusional, unintentionally a liar, but also kind of just trying his best to make life seem more fun.
When you really think about it, we all subconsciously attempt to make life more interesting by dwelling in pretentious behaviour. But is there a way to pretend the right way while making our travel dreams come true?
Make it a mission to fake it till you make it
Faking it till you make it might sound counterintuitive, but in psychology, it’s called status-enhancement theory – a tactic used by people to gain influence by acting confident and capable. It’s all about impression here, but it only works by practicing balance.
Based on the Global Digital Report, there are over 3 billion social media users worldwide. Virtual connection is definitely an integral part of our everyday life, but being fixated on virtual life by living under a façade is no way to go. If you can relate to Tarek, you might want to start making your travel fantasy a reality and take control of your life.
Instead of taking selfies all day pretending you’re in the Bahamas, swap your social media apps with travel apps, consume travel-related content and actively be on the hunt for travel bargains. You’d be surprised at what you can find these days!
Cut the nonsense and shift your perspective
Living vicariously through social media sounds harmless, but it also comes with side effects. After time, you’ll develop occasional bouts of envy and worst, you’ll start using it as a substitute instead of living the life you’ve always dreamed of.
Social media eventually becomes your reality, your only way of experiencing repressed wanderlust like Tarek. So how do you move forward? Get inspired! Surround yourself with active individuals, set out a concrete plan and focus on achieving it. Remember, social media is just an illusion – use it wisely.
Turn your addiction into motivation
If you’ve ever wondered why social media is so addictive, it’s because mindless activity is always easy! Everyone craves adventure, but it also requires a lot of action. That’s why we’re hooked on blockbuster films and books as a form of escapism. If the idea of adventure is that thrilling, then why are we still hesitant to just go for it?
Aside from financial constraints, sometimes it’s an underlying fear of the unknown: the enemy of wanderlust. It’s so much easier to be on the sidelines and watch others go places, but where’s the fun in that?
You’re not expected to delete all social media accounts; you just need to remind yourself that life is more than just that. When you #stoppretending, you open yourself up to the possibility of change and harness your capabilities instead of ignoring it. Acting like someone you’re not will eventually shatter your own perception of yourself; it might even cause you to neglect what really matters in life.
Someone like Tarek might seem glamorous through his online persona, but that’s not who he is in real life. In fact, many people aren’t who they pretend to be and that’s perfectly okay. Learn to make peace with that fact and live your truth with curiosity and wonder.
Let's cut the chase and watch the full episode, enjoy!